Cocaine stole my brother »
Posted By JessicaLaurie 1 year, 1 month ago in StyleHow well do we know those closest to us? Bill Frost was brave, charming, talented and mixed up in a murky world. Five years after his death, his sister is still discovering the truth
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Francisca1 year, 1 month ago
From the bottom of my heart, I believe we always know what's going on, but we don't want to see ( to have peace, for our own tranquillity, and above all to avoid quarrels..)
It is not very courageous, but it's true
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natashas1 year, 1 month ago
It is very sad to lose someone to drugs. As smart as this man was he knew what he was doing, he just lost control over his will to change. It is very easy not to see the signs when you do not live with the person who is using drugs.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
I did, for a while. It isn't hard to explain the eroding of love for anyone or anything else life has to offer when one gets strung out. It just happens. I don't know anyone who intended to become an addict, and I know a lot of addicts.
First it's a thrill. Kind of like walking around with acute sexual arousal that just won't stop. Then it's a routine, easily managed by the most novice at multitasking. The 'bumps' get bigger because the thrill ebbs quicker. A little more skill is required at juggling the job, bills, relationships, social commitments etc. This slow spiral starts to gain momentum over time. Eventually the dope is the only thing that matters, and you wonder how you got there. Insideous!
I've known prostitutes that were the biggest Bible thumpers you ever met, even while smoking coke. Known wealthy people that lost everything. Buried a few too. Ran with gangsters and high rollers, bums and business professionals, and people that work for the state.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
Sat at home and watched police chases on TV only to have the fugitive show up at my door. Had big time users that owed me money tell me I needed rehab.
I wouldn't have listened to Jesus and all of the angels if they knocked on my door. I wouldn't have opened it. This cat was sitting in my living room because he owed me money.
Did some power out there know how to get to me? Don't know.
i haven't used anything stronger than nicotine or caffeine in eight years, and don't have any plans to, today.
Hobe, good for you.You haven't found a reason to yet.
I believe yet stands for: You're Eligible Too. Good luck!
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humemacdonald1 year, 1 month ago
Addiction cuts across all race/ economic/ political strata for sure. I know lots of "professional people that have struggled to hide their addiction- lawyers, bankers engineers ...
It terrifies me.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
Many people tend to look at victims and perpetrators.
The fact is, the user perpetrates a crime on himself. Addiction is classified as a disease and if any are contentious, I won't argue with you. If you saw "Goodfellas", and said, "that guy is nuts"! You've made my point. We call these war stories. Some stories are so insane they're the stuff of farcical comedy, and I don't mind sharing them. Others are cruel jokes.In the former and the latter, Ive been the butt of every one of them. Anyway, some insight has been gained, and the education has been expensive. I always liked to think that I was one of the 'good guys'. Imagine that! LOL
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humemacdonald1 year, 1 month ago
The fact is, the user perpetrates a crime on himself.
Very true sumptuous and something you don't hear very often..be right back
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anadaji671 year, 1 month ago
That's why I stick to pot.... And for the tip or info tidbit of the day: crack smoke smells disgusting, almost as bad as the crackhead smoking it.
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Natalie11831 year, 1 month ago
I agree with COKE DIDN'T do anything. If you don't do it it does NOTHING to you!!! I feel bad, but people need to be responsible for their own decisions. Like voting for Bush.
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TweekerchickQC1 year, 1 month ago
Its really easy to not see how drugs affect the people around you when you're so wrapped up in them.
Functioning addicts are the hardest to spot. They show up to work everyday, they do a good job, their lives seem normal...
what you don't see is them snorting rails in the bathroom.
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humemacdonald1 year, 1 month ago
Riddles of the universe- yeah I know what you mean -one time I was taking this Astronomy course and I was sitting around one night just thinking about this stuff when all of a sudden,I had this notion that I had solved one of the mysteries of the universe, and like you the next morning it was gone, but boy the night before it sure seemed real.
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zplan1 year, 1 month ago
I know of the coaxing, and the pleading. I know of having to physically restrain and nurse and watch. My last girlfriend went the way of Meth. I know the resounding and echoing effects of being close to someone who is addicted. Coming home from work to a room full of strangers.I had to end it after two years to keep my sanity. There are far reaching effects to these things, and it lingers.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
So true. Even with the best of intentions, trust eventually gets trampled.
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evelyna1 year, 1 month ago
I know people who do this in their 50s and 60s. While most seem a few cents short of a penny. There are a few who actually seem to get a lot done. Some have a better memory than I do. I wonder why this is so?
My last boyfriend spent his whole life crashing. I don't call that much of a high. I could tell anytime he did the stuff the house would be clean but never good enough.
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memestryker1 year, 1 month ago
This is very sad. I also have a family member who was lost to alcohol and drugs--a brilliant man who also was able to hide it from everyone, so no one even suspected until one day a similarly horrific event uncovered the truth. My heart goes out to this lady. Beloved family members and friends can truly break your heart without warning. You lead separate lives and only hear what they tell you. Very sad.
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usdandy1 year, 1 month ago
Drugs is a killer. A full scale war on drug trafficking needs to be launch to put an end to this menace which is ruining the lives of many. Thanks for sharing.
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Waterkeeper1 year, 1 month ago
I sympathize with the writer of this article. My brother has a huge coke problem. Until recently, I'd call him a functional coke addict. He's a sucessful professional who is now spiraling out of control. Nothing I say or do seems to make any difference. It's as if he thinks he's invinceable.
I just don't understand how people get so into coke. I've done it on a few occations and absolutly hated it. It's an evil, evil drug. I fully support the war on the drugs like these.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
Coke is an acquired taste.
Some researchers suggest that people prone to addiction gravitate toward a 'balancing drug'. This at the outset would be one that might compensate a personality need. Stimulants/ more aggressive, depressants/more passive. Might be a grain of truth to that theory in some cases.
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humemacdonald1 year, 1 month ago
I don't know if it is the stimulant/ deppressant connection or the feeling you get at the time of active use. I know when I was in my 20"s I used to drink more in social situations because I was too much of an introvert- uncomfortable in my own skin I guess; definitely used it as a "personality compensator" as you said.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
Exactly! I'm not like them! I pay my bills, etc., etc.
Addicts lie to themselves all of the time. It's called denial.
Most of the people I associate with that used to use are now very responsible, admitting their part in their addiction.
No one forced me to use. Some have been forced or seduced, but that is rare.
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dugbug631 year, 1 month ago
I dont feel sorry for drug addicts they made their own choice to do drugs so they can get high, I have 1 dead brother cause of crack cocaine that was a total thief and bullied people and have another brother that does an assortment of drugs and he works and steals to support his habits of choice and I know many other people that does drugs that may call me their friend but I let them know Im not friends with any no good drug addict, I will not give or loan money to them and they can not come to my home for any reason
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schillinfl11 year, 1 month ago
You should be a friend and try to help them in other supportive ways.
It helped me get through it. Your other brother may need you.
Take care.
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evelyna1 year, 1 month ago
I think people are different as the type of addictions they choose. I think people who like coke also enjoy painkillers.
I do not agree when people say they do not know someone is on a drug. The simplist clue is they often make promises they do not keep. Look in everyone's pockets when they do not know you are around you will find short straws. Also, razor blades laying in the house. They will usually lie and say they use them to shave. No one has used that kind of a blade for years.
A lot of people do not crash.
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dugbug631 year, 1 month ago
My only help for my other brother is tough love and Im very very cold hearted toward drug addicts, my only way of helping him would be to chop off his thieving hands or turn him into the law if I ever seen any drugs in his posession and just hope he would get years of prison to straighten him out
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schillinfl11 year, 1 month ago
Has your family tried an intervention? Tough love is good. Calling the police, in my opinion isn't the kind of tough love that helps. That may turn him even further away from his family and pull him even deeper into it. Like I said earlier, I went through this. I fought a cocaine addiction. It was bad. What helped me was my family and friends. They didn't call the police. They simply showed me that I was loved and showed me the way towards sobriety. Ultimately, it was up to me to realize the destructive road I was on and what it was doing to the people who cared about me. That, in-it-self allowed me to wake up. The turning point was me finally realizing that I was going to die if I continued. Me dying would hurt my loved ones more than it would me at the time. I didn't want them to suffer. So I quit....and now I'm a better man because of it and getting better everyday I'm off it.
Just wanted to give you hope that you yourself can help just by being there for him.
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schillinfl11 year, 1 month ago
If I could do it, and I was in bad shape, your brother can do it.
Every chance I have to help someone in this regards I do it. I feel like I had a second chance. Your brother deserves one too.
Sorry about your other brother. I lost friends to this drug too. All the best man. Just be there for him. Talk. Be the sensible voice in his life. Show him he's loved and quitting is achievable.
Peace.
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sumptuousdigs1 year, 1 month ago
For some that's what it takes. dugbug, play it smart and safe.
I would also urge you not to become bitter.
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Lyquid1 year, 1 month ago
My best friend or was my best friend just started to do coke. He moved to new york at the end of june after we graduated. He was gone for about two weeks and we had planned a vacation in the bahamas. He never did coke and barely knew anything about it. Well once we were in the bahamas he went out and found some and he knew everything about it in those two weeks he was gone. He was fiendin the whole vacation spending endless money on it. After the vacation I went back to jersey and for the next few days I was receiving calls from 2-8am in the morning him telling me how good he feels and how he hasnt been asleep for 2-3 days. Let alone I couldn't understand one word that left his mouth since he was talking so fast. Screw this drug alright. That ain't normal. Weed is all I need.
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